What Do You Want?

Listening to: I Gotta Feeling - Black Eyed Peas

Mood: Excited

Ok, so I'm going to start this new post with two classic quotes that are somewhat intertwined; "you want what you can't have" and "you don't what you've lost until it's gone". As I sat and pondered I came across the connection that links these two quotes, proverbs. Perhaps other's have already discovered this and what not, but I've noticed the inextricable link between the two whilst thinking about a certain situation that's happening at school with some friends. I always seem to tap into something more general base by analysing situations.

So I came across this connection because at the moment there's a few "problems", shall we say, regarding formal partners. I'm the type of person where I can just sit and talk to almost everyone so I basically have friends in every group in my grade, and through other grades too. So this particular group I'm "part of" have a similar group in a boys school (I go to an all girls school) and there's a usual pairing system between the girls and the boys, however, some girls aren't close to some guys and so on, so forth. The question then lies with who takes the "left over" boys, and basically this is where those two quotes happened to find it's inextricable link to each other.

Girl A wants to take a partner and has the choice between Boy J and Boy C. Girl S, however, didn't initially want a partner but then decided since everyone else was taking one wanted to take one too, but from the boy's group so the boys all knew each other. Since Girl S decided she wanted a partner last she had last pick. So Girl A decides she wants to ask Boy J. Girl S for some peculiar reason desperately wants to take Boy J, and for reasons even more peculiar feels the need to ask Boy J who he'd rather take her or Girl A.

Ok there are several things wrong with this situation. Firstly, Boy J has always been a bit of a tool. Secondly, I don't even know why it even matters who takes who because in the end all the guys are going to be there and so are all the girls. These girls and boys aren't even dating or particularly good friends, so I don't see why who takes who was even something that needed to be decided on anyway.

Back to the situation, so Girl A through the great-vine finds out what Girl S has asked and what Boy J answered (he'd rather Girl S who asked, than Girl A who wants to take him to the formal). A whole heap of secrecy happened from girls who were suppose to be friends with Girl A and pretty much the whole thing just blew up and completely out of hand. (By the way, Boy J did a bit of bitching about everything and everyone)

Although that explanation is probably clearer in my mind as I know who's who and how those proverbs apply here the basic explanation of the link is that one of the girls wanted what she couldn't have so sought for what she wanted, in the end she lost a friendship with multiple people.

However, this is a crazy situation that has completely blown out of proportions, these two proverbs apply to other situations too. I'm an older sister, and I've done this on multiple occasions. Basically what is done is, say there are two different types of chocolate bars; milk and dark. I desperately want the milk because I hate dark, however, my little brother gets the milk. What I do is make the dark seem more enticing and lure my brother in trading. However, whenever that happens I always seem to second guess my trade and wonder if it was right to have traded that dark bar for a milk, I question whether it was in fact better than the milk. I guess this brings me into another proverb; "you can't have your cake and eat it too".

But with all that having been said, all of it comes back to one fatal flaw in the human mind; greed. And greed just leads to more flaws; jealousy, envy.

P.S: I love both milk and dark chocolate by the way.

xx