Listening to: This Fire Burns - Killswitch Engage
Mood: content, however, slightly frustrated
So after viewing a few of my friend's blogs here on Blogspot I decided to create my own. Haven't decided exactly what my use of it would be. Perhaps to vent, or perhaps as one of my friends has done, to use as a creative outlet. Regardless, I'll be blogging thoughts and whatnot here.
However, for my first entry I just have a few things I want to get off my chest. Now, I don't really regard what is coming as 'bitching' as such, it's my way of discussing what is happening in the lives that surround me and values I do not agree, nor uphold.
I have this friend, and her previous boyfriend was taken away by this other girl she used to be rather good friends with. This happened a few years back when we were all a lot younger and ignorance ran though our veins as freely as blood itself. However, this other girl didn't exactly TAKE him as such, he left my friend for the other girl. My friend had severed her friendship with this other girl because of this whole debacle, but she had continued her friendship with the guy who had come between them in the first place. Ok so that's the background.
Recently I've noticed my friend's flirtatious gestures towards her ex-boyfriend, whom she had continued a friendship with disregarding the fact he broke up with her to be with this other girl. What frustrates me is this constant flirtation, not to mention my friend had almost immediately found another boyfriend after her ex broke up with her. I feel rather sorry for her current boyfriend because of this. She tries to go out behind her boyfriend's back or when ever the opportunity arises. And the sad thing is she denies that what she's doing is flirting. She doesn't think her ex constantly wrapping his arms around her or her sitting on his lap counts as anything. Honestly, if I didn't know better I'd think that they were a couple.
You can call me narrow-minded, traditional whatnot, but I do NOT believe in polygamy. Whether it's in a relationship simply as boyfriend-girlfriend or a marriage. Not just polygamy, but cheating. I guess me being stubborn works with my passion here. It's never ok to cheat, and even if everyone in a polygamous relationship understands, it's ridiculous. The whole point of a relationship, and I'm talking proper relationships here, I believe is that you acknowledge the person you cherish and by being in that relationship you're announcing to the world, or whoever knows, how dearly you cherish this person. Quite frankly I don't think my friend would be so nice if she found this other girl flirting with her boyfriend, or her boyfriend flirting with an ex. So I don't understand why there's a double standard for her.
One friend once said to me that they thought that girl/boyfriends were more like accessories to them than anything else. This angered me and I refused to speak to this person for a while, and honestly to this day I haven't really spoken to them other than artifical conversations. This links quite nicely to what I was saying before, if you're going to bother being in a relationship cherish it, don't muck around. If you like them, be with them and only them. If you don't like them, they break up with them or don't go out with them in the first place.
But having said all this, I guess everything is based on perception and how one perceives a situation and these are purely my perceptions based on my morals and ethics. And like I said at the beginning, call me old fashioned, traditional call me what you will but if I was in a relationship with someone I wouldn't want to be cheated on, and I definitely wouldn't think twice about cheating on someone.
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